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6 Potty-Training Myths to Stop Believing
Here’s how to sort fact from fiction when it comes to potty-training your toddler.
Written by
Dr. Harvey Karp
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Parenting is tough enough without trying to live up to unrealistic expectations. Nowhere is that more true than with potty training. Here’s how to sort fact from fiction when it comes to teaching your toddler to “do his duty.”
Potty-training truth: When you see another kid ditch diapers as soon as he turns 2, you might start to feel like your little one is lagging behind. But the truth is that every tot learns at her own pace. In some cultures children are toilet trained as early as 9 months, and in others potty training doesn’t happen until over 3 years.
Potty-training truth: Pressuring your toddler to be potty-trained often backfires. Toilet training is like trying to grab water; the harder you grasp at it…the less success you have.
Potty-training truth: Being too enthusiastic when you hear that first "trickle" or "plop!" can cause problems. Shy children may avoid the potty because they are afraid of failure and disappointing you. Defiant kids may withhold stool, denying you the thing that makes you happy at times when they are angry with you. The trick is to play it cool. Give praise for sitting on the potty, but chill out when your child actually poops or pees. Just smile and say "good job." Then wipe, flush, and get on with your day.
Potty-training truth: Using underwear too early usually leads to feelings of failure when the child inevitably has “accidents.”
Potty-training truth: Diapers aren’t so bad. In fact, having a toilet-trained toddler is often a “pain in the butt” because then you have to stop the car at a dirty gas station or drop your shopping and find a bathroom the minute your child says she has to go potty.
Potty-training truth: Trying to toilet train a child too early may feel like too much pressure for a young toddler and cause them to regress and delay their potty training. Instead of forcing it, look for cues that your tot is ready.
By removing some of the potty-training pressure—from both you and your child—and going at your own pace, the business of your toddler doing his business will get a lot easier. He'll be proud to rock those big-kid underpants in no time!
Disclaimer: The information on our site is NOT medical advice for any specific person or condition. It is only meant as general information. If you have any medical questions and concerns about your child or yourself, please contact your health provider. Breastmilk is the best source of nutrition for babies. It is important that, in preparation for and during breastfeeding, mothers eat a healthy, balanced diet. Combined breast- and bottle-feeding in the first weeks of life may reduce the supply of a mother's breastmilk and reversing the decision not to breastfeed is difficult. If you do decide to use infant formula, you should follow instructions carefully.
