Biting is a common behavior for primitive cave-kids. They typically chomp during teething or when frustrated. But if this behavior is not discouraged, promptly and powerfully, it can turn into a dangerous habit (like biting other kids’ faces or biting babies). 

Just as Monica finished tying her 16-month-old’s shoe, he bit her shoulder—hard! “Owww!” Monica yelped. Then, struggling to compose herself, she scolded him lovingly, mildly, “Please, Lukie! That’s not nice. Mommy doesn’t like biting.” 

Do you think Lucas stopped? Nope! In fact, he soon began biting whenever he got mad. 

How to Stop Toddler from Biting 

Here’s how to stop this dangerous behavior fast:

  1. Consequences

If the chomper bites before you can stop him, he needs a consequence. With a young toddler, start with a mild consequence. 

  1. Clap-Growl.

In the example above, Monica’s message, “Mommy doesn’t like biting,” failed to work because it was way too sweet. Remember, in emotional situations, what you say is much less important than the way you say it. Be firm and wear a serious expression to match.

If you happen to see your tot open his mouth right as he’s about to nip, give some fast, hard claps, make a deep, menacing growl, do a double take and with a warning finger held up, bark, “Hey…hey! No bite. No bite!!” 

Don’t stare at your child after the warning. Staring may make a defiant kid disobey even more! 

  1. Kind Ignoring.

Immediately remove your little biter from the situation. Give him a “cold shoulder” for 20-30 seconds and lavish some sympathy on the child who was nipped. (Let the biter overhear you gossip to his victim, “I say, ‘No, no, no!’ I don’t like it when Lukie bites. Kids have to use their words when they’re mad. I like it when kids who are really angry say, ‘No, no! I don’t like it!’”) After a minute or two of kind ignoring, reengage your child with a little friendly talking or play.

Later in the day, gossip to his teddy bear about how you don’t like biting. Role-play the incident and ask your child what the “biter” could do to make the bitten doll feel better. You might also tell a fairy tale. Perhaps a little story about the girl bunny who was sad because she would bite so much that the other bunnies didn’t want to play with her. So her mommy taught her a special truck: Every time she wanted to bite, she should show her teeth and click them together 3 times…but never bite. The other little bunnies thought this was funny and then they all wanted to play with her! This made her smile and she lived happily ever after. The end! 

  1. “Take-Charge” Consequence.

Children who bite hard or are “repeat offenders” get an immediate consequence, like a mini timeout, timeout or a fine.

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