Real Parents, Real TalkâŚon Breastfeeding: Keyma Morgan
In honour of Black Breastfeeding Week, weâre interviewing a few mums to gain a better understanding of their experiences with breastfeeding and motherhood as Black women.
Keyma Morgan, founder of Style Weekender, always wanted to breastfeedâbut she also knew, realistically that between her intense job and frequent travel, sheâd need to supplement with pumping and formula. âBreastfeeding and supplementing was my initial thought for my journey,â she says.
So, she gave her doctors a heads up that this was her plan. Unfortunately, this had a negative impact she didnât anticipate.
When Keymaâs daughter Victoria was born, she had trouble breastfeeding.Â
âWhen I couldnât breastfeed right away, she was given a bottle, pronto,â Keyma remembers. âI do get it, but I had explained to the doctor [that my choice to supplement] was out of work-life convenience. I didnât realise theyâd introduce a bottle right away, and I didnât realise with introduction of bottle it would make a harder process for me to naturally breastfeed.â
Keymaâs breastfeeding struggles persisted through her three-day hospital stay, and despite the hospital having a lactation consultant on staff, Keyma didnât see the lactation consultant until 30 minutes before she was discharged...which didnât end up being helpful. Then, when Keymaâs milk did come in, she became too engorged to breastfeed.
âI emailed and did all of the things the hospital told me to do, but it wasnât working,â she says. âThere was no plan or follow up.â
After exhausting those recommendations, she took matters into her own hands, first trying nipple shields, and then enlisting an independent lactation specialist.
âWe had a plan, and I was trying, but for some reason I wasnât producing enough,â Keyma remembers. âI spent over $1,500 buying stuff I was recommendedâŚI remember final straw was a breastfeeding cube you attach to your boob. My poor baby was like, âthis isnât going to work.ââ
Finally, pumping so frequently and trying so hard to boost her production became a source of deep unhappiness. Thatâs when she made the choice to stop.Â
Keymaâs at peace now, but she knows her experience could have been better had she received support from the outset.
âI felt like if I had gotten more attention in the hospital, I would have had a lot more success,â she says.
While Keymaâs breastfeeding journey didnât turn out the way she hoped it would, it did give her valuable insight about breastfeeding that sheâs been eager to share with other Black women, so they donât have to face the same challenges.Â
âTalk to your doctor right away about breastfeeding,â Keyma says. âBut do not tell your doctor you want to supplement even if you do. Say you want to breastfeed if itâs any part of journey.â
Keyma wonders if sheâd been more adamant about breastfeeding to her doctor from the get-go if the hospital would have tried harder to support her breastfeeding journey. âKnowing supplementing was on my chart, they just tried bottle right away.â
At the hospital, find out if thereâs a lactation consultant on staff, and make sure they come see you. âMake sure the lactation consultant at the hospital is going to be present and working when you go in. Tell your husband, partner, sister, or whoever is there make sure that the lactation consultant comes to see you in the first hours of giving birth,â she says.
If anythingâs unclear about breastfeedingâŚask your doctor to clarify, she advises.
âDonât be afraid to hold your doctor over 5 to 10 minutes. Youâre just as important as the other patients,â Keyma urges, recalling how confusing the process for getting a breast pump through was. âSend emails, ask questions, call the officeâwhatever it is you need to do to get the right answers.â
Keyma also encourages new parents to seek out a like-minded community. Keyma found support in Facebook groups, such as Black Moms Exclusively Pumping and Black Moms Breastfeeding, that helped her navigate some of the issues she experiencedâŚbut she wished she had tapped into them much sooner. âDo it before giving birth. I think if Iâd found these groups before, I would have been in a better position."Â
And, if you can afford it, Keyma recommends hiring a doula.
âFind a doula that is well trained, experienced, that has worked in your preferred hospital, that has been in that hospital so they understand the system,â she says. âEven if itâs just for specific areasâit doesnât have to be there for the entire journey.â
Keyma believes a doula could have helped her get the lactation support she needed in the hospital, and a post-hospital doula could have assisted her at home to make sure her baby was latching right and that her journey was going as planned.Â
âIâm a Black woman, and my breastfeeding journey was different. Iâm learning so much more about how Black women navigate medical system. I didnât get that at first because I grew up in Caribbean,â Keyma says. âI have told my Black friends to enlist a Black doula who understands the struggle and shame. I want Black women to get the support where their vulnerability is embraced and theyâre taking care of themselves as mothers.â
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- Where Black Mums Can Turn for Breastfeeding Help
- Unpacking the Racial Disparities in Breastfeeding
- Real Parents, Real Talk⌠on Breastfeeding: Christina Kwarteng
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