Advice for New Parents: 8 Happiness Tips
Advice for New Parents
Plenty of folks offer new parents nitty-gritty baby tips for getting the job done. Iāve written some myself and trust meāyouāll need āem! But hereās something differentā¦tips to help you thrive, grow and truly enjoy your journey as a new-parent-to-be.
Trust yourself.
Some first-time parents get emotional whiplash flipping between feeling like youāve got the job nailedā¦and like an inept rookie. But, you know what? You are the newest, shiniest link in an unbroken chain of successful parents that stretches back to the beginning of time! Believe me, things get much stickier later on (fears, unfair friends, teen traumas, etc.). But for now, you will be a total success if you just keep to the basics: love, touch, singing, milk and patience.
Be kindā¦to yourself.
If youāre like many first-time parents, youāve barely ever touched a newbornābefore you had your ownāyet you think you should automatically be a baby care expert. Please, ask that ājudgeā in your head to take a hike. Be as supportive to yourself as you would be to your best friend. Thatās a sure path to greater satisfaction and happiness, and some of the best advice for new parents.
Get as much sleep as possible (maybe my best advice for new parents).
If parenting is a big balloon of joy, exhaustion is the pin that pops it! Your sleep success can make or break a mood. After 30 years in pediatric practice, I have seen over and over again how sleep deprivation can reduce a mom or dad to tears. It makes you feel alone, incompetent, edgy and causes serious accidents and sickness. The 5 Sās are a simple tool to help boost baby sleepā¦and so is SNOO, our smart sleeper; the safest, most effective baby bed ever made! (OK, I may be a little biased, butā¦really it is!)
Accept all the help you can get as a new parent.
Never before in history have moms and dads been expected to care for their newbornsā¦all alone. We always had moms, aunts and older sisters living with us to help out. And when both parents work, they're even more pressed. So, my advice for new parents? Donāt hesitate to ask or pay for help. You needā¦and deserve it. Lean on your friends and family, look into SNOO, or hire some help. Youāll get more sleep and enjoy your beautiful growing family more fully.
Be flexible as you get used to being a new parent.
You will naturally find that some parenting philosophies make more sense to you than others, but if I were to make a bumper sticker for parents, it would say āBe flexibleā¦or die!ā It is great to have ideas and plans, but our children are here to challenge all of our preconceived expectations. Another quote I love is from a man in the 1600ās, āBefore I had children I had 6 theories on how to raise them. Now I have 6 children and no theories!ā Stay flexible especially when things arenāt going as planned. You may be surprised how ājust rolling with itā can keep your good mood going.
Donāt lose your sense of humor when you become a first-time parent.
Remember, perfection is found only in the dictionary. So, forget dignity, forget organization, be gentle with yourself andā¦laugh, laugh, laugh! Laughter raises your spirits, lowers your stress and is exactly what this doctor orders!
Take care of each other. And do some fun stuff!
Caring for your baby is only half your job; the other is giving your main squeeze some TLC. Step out for dinner or a walk when a family member comes to visit. Find time to cook together, cuddle on the couch and maybe evenā¦wait for itā¦you know! [Read More: Sex After Birth]
Live. Life.
Itās become almost as annoying to be told āthe time goes so fastā as it is to hear āsleep when the baby sleeps.ā But itās true! If your head's caught in the past or the future, you will miss the miracle that is your babyās first year of life. Hold her close and feel her heartbeat. Lose yourself in her smile. Be truly present when she says dada or mama for the first time. There are few, if any, happier moments in life. Enjoy and thrive!
Final Words of Advice for New Parents
Those are some of my best tips for new parents that Iāve been doling out for decades. Above all, remember that if youāre doing your best first-time parent, youāre doing a great job. And if youāre struggling, donāt be afraid to ask for help. Some resources you might consider: If your newborn isnāt sleeping, check out my Newborn Sleep Tips and Habits. If youāre having trouble with your own mental health, donāt hesitate to use one of these Mental Health Resources for New Parents. Youāve got this!
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