New Parents Value Sleep More Than Money, Sex or āMe-Timeā - Survey Results
If you're a new parent, you've likely struggled with sleep deprivation. Happiest Baby and BabyCenter wanted to learn as much as we could about the ways exhaustion affects your lives.Ā In our survey of over 1000 parentsĀ (with babies under 6 mos.), we asked aĀ slew of questions about sleep habits, challenges, emotions and relationships to share the current "state of sleep."Ā
Our biggest findings? Sleep deprivation isĀ theĀ top challenge for families, 62% of the parents told usāmore so than lack of time (48%), money (34%) or sex (26%). Similarly, sleep is the main thing parentsĀ missĀ from their pre-baby days, more than āme-timeā or sex. And, after having kids, parents feel more anxious (54%) and frustrated (47%) than before.
As a pediatrician who talks to young parents all the time, Iām not surprised. The advice I give new moms and dads is that they should never feel guilty about seeking help. Without extended family pitching in or finding other support,Ā you end up paying the price in missed sleepāand ultimately with your health. Ā
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Just How Sleep-Deprived Are New Parents?
On average, parents get only 5.7 hours of Zzzās a night, and more than 3/4 haven't slept a full 8 hours in months. Yikes! As a result, 78% report feeling tired or exhausted during the past week. Also, parents indicate that their babies wake an average of twice a night, with no improvement between ages 3 and 6 months!
Interestingly, moms and dads report feeling the same level of exhaustion. "A clear sign that partners are participating more equally in newborn care," comments Linda Murray, my partner in the study and BabyCenterās Global Editor-in-Chief.
Todayās ParentsĀ AreĀ Partners
Exploring that āpartnershipā theme further, shared baby-duty seems to correlate with the overall happier picture that we saw in 2017 compared to our first survey in 2012.
New parents report feeling positive emotions at higher rates than negative ones. They feel a whole lotta love (86%), joy (71%) and awe (70%) since baby entered their lives. And, 46% percent of parents feel āvery confidentā about the decisions they make as moms and dads. (That said, the lack of sleep puts significant strain on relationships. Of the parents getting the fewest hours sleep a night, 47% report feeling distance from their partner or spouse, compared to 33% in the most rested group.)
And whatās so heartening toĀ this pediatricianĀ is that messages about safe sleeping practicesĀ areĀ being received. In our 2012 parent survey, 25% of parents reported that their baby slept in bed with them for most of the week. In the latest survey, that number dropped to 20%.
Itās my hope that weāll see a steeper decline in bed-sharing by 2022. Letās keep spreading the word that itās safest for babies to sleep next to their parents' bed but not in itāand babies should always be laid down on the back to sleep. These are best ways we can protect our little ones in the first 6 months of life.
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The good news? Happiest Baby is on a mission to help parents with their biggest challenges. And, weāve developed several solutions to help families get more sleep! Learn about ourĀ educational classes,Ā books, DVDsĀ andĀ SNOO Smart Sleeper! You can also read free articles on our site on howĀ safe swaddling, theĀ right kind of white noiseĀ andĀ extra motionĀ are the keys to boosting sleep and reducing the need forĀ sleep training.
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